Fun? Megan, come on, what do you mean fun? I get up, I take meds, I go to work, I try to make it through the day, I come home in pain and try to do the minimum I can to get by, feeding myself, family, pets, doing laundry, paying the bills, I collapse as soon as I can.
Fun? Everything I used to do for fun is gone - I can't... drink, smoke, go out in the sun, exercise, go to rock concerts, go to noisy/smoky bars... fill in the blanks.
Fun? I can't afford to have fun. My money all goes to doctor bills, medications, co-pays, insurance premiums...
Fun? Look, I can't have fun when my basic responsibilities aren't being handled. I'll have some fun after I've felt well enough to finish the taxes, clean the house, mow the lawn...
Have I covered everything? Any other objections you can think of? I want you to know I have lived my life at times inside of every one of those objections. Who has been my biggest killjoy? Not Migraine disease, chronic fatigue, sinus infections, nasty bosses, demanding clients or disbelieving relatives, but little old me. My own biggest Killjoy.
But I am taking a stand for Joy, alive and well. This is my life. Now. Imperfect as it is. If I wait to get everything done first and then have fun, two things will happen. I will never get it all done, and I will never have any fun.
Do I want this on my tombstone: Got it all done? By the way, even if I want it, it's never going to happen. As fast as I can do something, no, even faster, the more stuff to do gnomes are creating more stuff to do.
And even if I give up on trying to get it all done, I also have to give up that I will have fun when I feel better. What if I don't feel better? Sorry guys, but what if this is as good as it gets? Don't stop hoping and working and fighting, but I could die tomorrow. This is my life. Now.
So what do you do for fun?
What gets you up in the morning?
What do you look forward to?
Your life is happening now, imperfect as it is.
What restores you, restores your perspective, where is your creativity?
Laugh. Play. Laugh some more.
I'm crocheting a granny square scarf. Kind of silly and retro-60's but I enjoy it. I am clearing my front porch little by little preparatory to stripping off the ratty old indoor-outdoor carpeting and painting it. I'm walking in the park every day I feel well enough. Sharing books to read with my kids & husband. Taking DVDs out of the library. Mostly I'm concentrating on finding fun things for when I'm sick or my head hurts, and taking time for fun on the weekends, whether or not we've gotten through our house projects agenda. And making plans with friends and family, not worrying whether we might have to cancel them. Making them anyway.
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